Disclosure: I'm male, single, 42 years old.

And after reading Liz Hoggard in the Evening Standard I'm a lovelorn spinster, an impossible romantic, yearning for love at first sight and TRUE love. She and her female friends have a hard time to find blokes, who just want sex and great conversation. Instead they date with mates who want to be truly loved.

Well, I do not know what's wrong with Liz's M… or London men in general, but I've some ideas why Liz and her female friends have such a terrible time with male libido. Here's my advice what might help to improve sex frequency.

For a start re-calibrate your profile to "sex and some conversation". If you want great conversation you can have it with your desperate female friends. Most men who are out for casual sex are not really enjoying going through the motion of hours of intellectual debate before they hit your bedroom.

Next lower your standards in regard to male with non-sexist views. This might be hard, but limiting yourself to the male sample group of intellectual woman-understander seriously jeopardizes your sex mission. A date with a decent macho does not automatically mean you're betraying your feminist believes.

Finally the good news is: your mother was right! There are still plenty of men around who just want the one thing. I know this for sure, because I'm one of them.